As a lesbian it fascinates me that *we* barely even show up under the banner that is touted by heterosexual women as an 'option'. Lesbianism is a way of being in relation to the world. It is not a refuge available for whichever disillusioned straight man or woman. We are people, not rehabilitation centres for heterofatalism. Interestingly, for many of these clearly bisexual women, the insist on claiming lesbianism when it suits them an then shitting on lesbians when it doesn't.
As an aside, given this and the recent mainstreaming of m/m content geared at heterosexual female readers and viewers, I am surprised that there has been little reckoning with just how easily women are capable of objectifying others. In the case of gay men the objectification is explicitly physical-sexual and as exploitative, only without seeming possessive as compared say to the straight male fetishisation of lesbians. When it comes to lesbianism, the objectification is geared more towards the emotional-sexual function in which we are thought to be safer options that won't hurt them.
It's funny for all the pronouns-in-bio of this era's idea of allyship, most liberal/progressive straight people still cannot contend with homosexuality as a actual way that others experience the world rather than as a 'disruptive' and interesting 'idea'.
As a lesbian it fascinates me that *we* barely even show up under the banner that is touted by heterosexual women as an 'option'. Lesbianism is a way of being in relation to the world. It is not a refuge available for whichever disillusioned straight man or woman. We are people, not rehabilitation centres for heterofatalism. Interestingly, for many of these clearly bisexual women, the insist on claiming lesbianism when it suits them an then shitting on lesbians when it doesn't.
As an aside, given this and the recent mainstreaming of m/m content geared at heterosexual female readers and viewers, I am surprised that there has been little reckoning with just how easily women are capable of objectifying others. In the case of gay men the objectification is explicitly physical-sexual and as exploitative, only without seeming possessive as compared say to the straight male fetishisation of lesbians. When it comes to lesbianism, the objectification is geared more towards the emotional-sexual function in which we are thought to be safer options that won't hurt them.
It's funny for all the pronouns-in-bio of this era's idea of allyship, most liberal/progressive straight people still cannot contend with homosexuality as a actual way that others experience the world rather than as a 'disruptive' and interesting 'idea'.
This is quite excellent, thank you
thank you so much for this